What if no one like the me I become

 I know this might sound silly, but I'm scared people aren't going to like who I am becoming. 

In therapy today we talked about putting myself first, not living up to people's expectations of m,e and setting my own standards based on my goals and who I want to be. Another thing I am working on is learning how to be an emotional person. 

I won't be emotional with people who haven't shown me emotions before. But I want to, and need to, let my emotional side out. My problem: I don't know what that looks like. I mean, I have emotions; I will just push them away. All my friends like me because of who they met a year ago, and the person I am now is changing. So what if I change and I'm trying to figure out how to become more in touch with my emotions and all my friends leave me? 

The simple answer is that then those aren't good friends. But the more complex answer is then I have no friends who want to hang out with me.

For example: 

What if the emotional me is clingy? 

Too loud?

What is I 'cry too much'?

What if I  get taken advantage of because I am too nice?

What if I make people uncomfortable? (as someone trying to overcome their people-pleasing tendencies)


On the other hand:

What if I love deeper?

What if I am able to help others be comfortable in their own skin?

The real answer: I deserve to be loved, even the authentic parts I keep buried away.

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